The CCR User's Guide

A draft of the upcoming book Building Healthy Relationships: Applications of Creative Conflict Resolution.

The work on the User's Guide was suspended in the Spring of 2008 to allow for work on a more general interest book tentatively titled, Creative Conflict Resolution.  Those chapters are also available on this site.  The content is not very different indeed, some is identical, but the line of the argument is somewhat different.  The remainder of this page has not been edited but remains up for purposes of allowing for continuity.

This book is essentially a running narrative that is the content of the Building Healthy Relationships class. The class is comprised of twenty units that are typically taught in 12 class sessions. The final class session, which often spans two weeks, is the Final Exam for the class. Thus the twenty units are taught in eleven sessions of an hour and forty-five minutes each. To see a summary of the eleven sessions with links to the handouts from each session, click on the link.

This page is a table of contents for the full twenty chapters. Each of the chapters is summarized on a page about that chapter together with links to a pdf file of the chapter and links to handouts relevant to the content of the chapter.  For easy navigation, use the Site Map on the right.

The narrative is intended to provide

• a review for class members,
• a chance to catch up for those who miss a class, and
• a preview for those who are considering taking the class.

It is unlikely that anyone will be able to apply the material simply from reading these pages. We would be happy to be wrong about that, and please let us know if you are able to make productive use of the material without taking the class, but the class is about so much more that the text and diagrams that we urge you not to assume that it doesn't work for you if all you have done is read the text.

Introduction

Chapter One: The Qualities of Shalom and Esuba

Chapter Two: The Difficulty of Changing Ourselves

Chapter Three: Knowing What We Need

Chapter Four: Significant Relationships and Patterns of Conflict

Chapter Five: The Structure of Relationships

Chapter Six: Becoming Accountable

Unit Seven?: Ending Abuse

Unit Eight?: Opportunity: Proximity and Power Over

Unit Nine?: Permission: Altered Thinking and Altered Mood

Unit Ten?: Motivation: to get what we need

Unit Eleven?: A Closer Look at Conflict

Unit Twelve?: Assertiveness

Unit Thirteen?: Going Inside

Unit Fourteen?: Addressing the Passions: Anger and Desire

Unit Fifteen?: Growing Up: The role of childhood experience in shaping adult relationships

Unit Sixteen?: Knowing what We Need: A view through three lens

Unit Seventeen?: What to Do: Acting Assertively

Unit Eighteen?: What to Do; Healing Damaged Relationships

Final Exam?: Creating what we Need

The PowerPoint presentation for the first unit on the qualities of shalom and esuba.

An index of available PowerPoint presentations can be found here.